Santiago Delboy, MBA, LCSW, S-PSB, is a colleague and friend of KPACT, who brings insight and thoughtfulness to his work and collaboration. We are pleased to share some of his writing. This post appears in Santiago Delboy’s blog, which can be found here. I believe attachment theory provides a fundamental framework to understand the issues our clients bring to […]
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Challenges in Polyamorous Relationships: Agreements, Negotiations, and Contracts
Posted onThis is the fifth in a series of articles about the intersections of polyamorous identities and psychotherapy, adapted from Rami Henrich and Cindy Trawinski’s article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy, “Social and therapeutic challenges facing polyamorous clients,” as well as supplemental materials that didn’t make it into the final research paper. In this installment, we […]
Children in Polyamorous Families – Part 2
Posted onby Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CASA, CSE In the first part of this series on children in polyamorous families, I explained how these kids have age-dependent experiences and why they appear to be doing so well in general. This second blog in the series details the advantages and disadvantages that children report in my study of […]
The Conflict with Conflict in Polyam Relationships
Posted onby Cindy Trawinski, PsyD Ever had conflict? Most people have had more conflict than they care to recall. Conflict is important to everyone and every relationship but when you are in a multi-partnered relationship good conflict skills become even more critical. On May 6, 2017, Rami Henrich, LCSW and I presented a workshop on applying […]
How Do Polyamorists Identify Themselves?
Posted onby Rami Henrich, LCSW & Cindy Trawinski, Psy.D. This is the second in a series of articles about the intersections of polyamorous identities and psychotherapy, adapted from our article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy, “Social and therapeutic challenges facing polyamorous clients” (Henrich & Trawinski 2016). In this installment, we provide an overview of Rami’s research findings, which uncover […]
Polyam Relationship Escalator — 1st Annual Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference
Posted onby Elizabeth Duke, PsyD I had such a blast attending the first ever Chicago Non-Monogamy Conference! The day was a whirl of shared wisdom, friendly faces, and excited energy. Josephine Kearns, co-founder of Chicago Polyam Cocktails, and I had the honor of sharing a model we created to help people construct the non-monogamy version of […]
What Basson’s Sexual Response Cycle Teaches Us About Sexuality
Posted onby Jo Flannery, AMFT The following article has been adapted from “Taking a Closer Look at Basson’s Model of the Sexual Response Cycle,” Jo Flannery’s article for Sexology International. It has been edited from its original format. To read the original article, click here. There is no one reason people choose to have sex. Rather, […]
Why Therapists May Misuse Their Power—and How to Avoid It (Video)
Posted onWhy do we sometimes misuse power even when we know better? That question is at the core of POWER: A USER’S GUIDE, the latest book by coach, facilitator, educator, and author Julie Diamond, Ph.D. In this video, Julie speaks with LifeWorks’ Cindy Trawinski about power dynamics in therapeutic relationships, as well as how therapists can […]
8 Ways to Take Action Against Islamophobia
Posted onby Cindy Trawinski, Psy.D. Prejudice, stereotyping, bias—however we understand these tendencies and attitudes, we can learn to identify, confront, wrestle with, accept, and change them within ourselves. Sometimes, however, doing so is possible only with great difficulty. Discrimination takes many forms, including harassment, bullying, hate speech, and scapegoating. Such behaviors put others at risk, cause […]
Why Do Sex Workers Need Your Support?
Posted onby Cindy Trawinski, Psy.D. and Cassandra Damm, MSW In a previous article, we introduced the topic of sex work, considered its history and politics, and explored some identifying attributes of the diverse population of individuals sometimes referred to as sex workers. In this article, we would like to offer a few guidelines about the many […]
We Are One
Posted onby Kate Koester, LCPC Recently, as a way to express his gratitude for deep and vulnerable sharing in a group, a friend of mine spoke these words, in the Lakota language — “Mitakuye Oyasin,” — meaning “we are all related,” or similarly understood as “we are one.” The effect it had on me was visceral […]
Am I a Marginalizer?
Posted onby Rami Henrich, LCSW What do you think of when you hear the word marginalization? People living in poverty, persons of color, those who do not share fully in the privileges some of us are enjoying these days? I would say yes to all of the above, and would include a list that would be […]