Our May KPACT presenter, carrie sarah kaufman, shared with us a poem she wrote on the intersection of kink, healing and disability.
have been so conditioned to give care if i want to receive it.
betray myself to meet my needs.
i have heard
am a burden in every relationship.
Mommy with chronic pain
know the power in my vulnerability
know the wisdom of needing
importance of the breath
domme while disabled is to discover, with play, what it could mean to break the cycles that hurt
exchange I shed the lie of my weight.
know I am more than my needs.
bending in any direction
expect to exercise the muscles of care
being taken for granted.
provide the space for surrender to me
I am given what i want.
— carrie sarah kaufman
carrie sarah kaufman is a queer, multiply disabled, white, Jewish femme. She is a kitchen witch, a plant mama, an artist, a survivor, and a work in progress. Her creative work explores disabled embodiment, sexuality and intimacy as well as themes in Jewish magic and spirituality. ck advocates for disabled survivors by talking to service providers about some of the barriers that disabled people face in accessing support. She also writes and speaks about the need for pleasure based sexual health information for people with disabilities of all ages.